During the recent Super Bowl Sunday “parade of super commercials” Audi had a commercial depicting a young man going to the Prom. He was going to the prom alone. In that determination to go alone he had several family members and friends taunting him with the words “no one goes to the Prom alone”. Even his grade-school aged sister in the chorus of taunts says: “Only losers go to the Prom alone.” His dad offers him the key to the Audi as incentive and courage to go it alone. The next scene flashes and we see him boisterously walking onto the stage to take the prom queen and whisk her off in the A4. The final scene portrays the young man and the prom queen screaming in the thrill of going top speed in the A4. The commercial ends with the slogan “Bravery. It is what defines us.”
Beginning Care Workshop for Spouses in Relationships Impacted by Sexual Addiction/Compulsivity
Recovery wisdom advises: Never allow yourself to get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, (HALT). On this morning’s 6-mile run, with my run partner out of town and running on less sleep than normal, I was hitting 2 out of 4 of the precautionary directives. If I let my mind wander to “I have to do 6 miles today” the run seemed like an impossible task. I wanted to walk. I wanted to slow down. My thoughts entered the realm of “stinking thinking” and the dreaded “I can’t do this”. Ughhh. I was tired. I was alone. I didn’t have my music. I was becoming bored. All the tell-tale signs of the wheels falling off the bus were at-risk for coming into play.
It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood
Remember Mr. Rogers?
He began every one of his ½ hour educational shows with the same ritual. He would come onto the set through the same door chirping out his usual song “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood, a beautiful day in the neighborhood, ….”. All the while, he would go through the same motions of taking off his tweed suit jacket, don his casual work sweater, take off his dress wing-tipped shoes, and put on his casual sneakers. You knew what was coming. He started each show the same way. That ritual set the stage for that day’s show.
Mr. Rogers was an extraordinary educator. He knew the importance of structure for children. Structure helps us make transitions. Structure helps us make sense of the unknown. As a marriage and family therapist I help parents develop routines that help children settle, feel safe, and decrease anxiety in the changes that face them as they developmentally move through time.